Take Çontrol

Always remember my flower child: First they laugh, and then they copy.

If you've ever wondered the reason for my persistence in blogging about various topics every week or so, I'm here to tell you that it's because I want to and I will inspire an entire generation. A generation that's lacking in patienceawareness, control and respect is at stake aka the future. Now, to some people that goal might seem "silly”, “crazy" or "impossible", but luckily for me I know that nothing's impossible. In fact the word itself clearly says:

I'm possible.

The other reason would be that I envision my blog turning into something great beyond measure in coherence with my business. I won't stop because someone who doesn't know me is rooting for me, while someone who does isn't.

This is sad, but true.

However, with that being said, I am in control of how I react to what the universe throws at me in relations with making my mark in life and how I present myself to the people I intend to influence and so are you!

For me, it's incentive enough to know that today I am not where I want to be in life, for me to keep progressing toward the person I allow myself to be.

Remember: You’re only trying to be better than the person you were yesterday and nothing else matters.

Looking past all the indirect and negative comments from insecure, attention seeking, miserable and ignorant people that this society consists of, is the only way to stay level headed in this chaotic game called life.

“People aren’t worried about how you’re doing; they’re worried about how you’re doing compared to them”.

"Discover why you're important, then refuse to settle for any individuals who do not COMPLETELY agree".

The fact that one decision could be the difference between you being successful and you being stagnant in YOUR life, should suffice for you wanting to be in control of you and anything/one that effects you.

Note how this cause and effect works, it's very simple:

  • If you are not in control of you, then you are out of control.

  • If you are out of control, then you are confused.

  • If you are a confused, then you are not focused.

  • If you are not focused, then you don't have a plan.

  • If you have no plan, there is no way to reach your goals.

  • No goals = No destination


Of course, there are many steps/details in between these points but these are the basics. It's also wise to never underestimate how quick this process could fall into play, in other words:

Take control.

I say this to simply say have control over your THOUGHTS, your responses, your actions, your reactions, and your energy. This is really the key to overcoming many trials in your life. I know it's tough sometimes to decipher between what you are able to control and what you can't control at times, but it's all a learning process.

"When you have control over your thoughts, you have control over your life".

It's okay for example, to not know or to make the wrong decision thinking you can handle it all but you can't and things start to fall apart (it happens to the best of us). Don't beat yourself up about it.

I can't stress this enough that you going through something and learning from your mistakes to build yourself back up makes you a more well-rounded and desirable person than the one who went through nothing and just "knows it all".

"A flower doesn't think of competing with the one next to it, it just simply blooms".

I am very emotional, (as I've mentioned), so you can only imagine how this process is going for me (#teamcancer), but it's taking a variety of opportunities and situations for me to exercise this technique with full force. I just take it one day at a time; I'm killing people with kindness and distance.

"Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can."

 Everyone starts somewhere.

Meanwhile, those who are secretly plotting your downfall, that can't seem to mind their own business are really playing themselves.

"Those with the smallest minds often come with the biggest mouths".

Yes it is true, people want to get the best of me, they want to make me feel uncomfortable about the moves I am making, as if they're far beyond my reach, but they are sadly mistaken because I am and will continue to always be in firm control of ME!

The feeling you get when you know you are in control of your emotions. > >

The feeling you get when others opinions and comments do not define who you are, what you do, or what you amount to. > >

  • This is where you flourish!

"I do my own thing, I stay in my own lane, and I'm not with the hype because I have a mind that's open to many things but attached to nothing".

Stay in control, stay fearless, and stay focused, just because they hate to see you unbothered, let alone unstoppable!

"They tried to bury me but didn't realize, I was a seed".

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