"To make the right choices in life, you have to get in touch with your soul. To do this you need to experience solitude, which most people are afraid of because in the silence you hear the truth and know the solutions."

-Deepak Chopra

The sad and unfortunate truth about this quote is that most people living  on earth now, will never reach this point of living, let alone of understanding. The simple fact that in this day and age being alone is considered a sign of weakness, speaks loud and clear to how ignorant and backwards this generation actually is.

Being alone is the ultimate sign of strength (if you ask me) because you know how to get through hell without being dependent.

I get criticized all the time for being alone, because people automatically assume that equates to being lonely. However, people fail to realize that it's a choiceI choose to be alone! And FYI I'm not lonely and never will be.

"If she's alone now, she won't be alone for long."

And you can bet on that, for those of you who fear being in solitude and are worried about mine.

There is a saying that goes, "In the end all you have is yourself." and they couldn't have been more accurate with that statement.

Note: #Solitudeisbliss

For instance, I see this all the time and I'm sure you do too because you probably do it. When you go to a party, cookout, or even a kickback, how many of you would actually even consider going alone? ...

Don't worry I'll wait.

My guess is 9 out of 10 of you all wouldn't.

Now, when I refer to going to these places of course I'm speaking of a circumstance that you've met the people before and know them very well or well enough.

People in general are  just are afraid of going anywhere alone and I believe it has more to do with internal factors than outside factors. Besides the fact that this generation is socially awkward, everything is also done for show and it's disgusting.

Everyone thinks "Oh, I'm going to go with this person and that person to this place because everyone is going to be there and I don't want them to think I don't have friends, or I don't want to look dumb or look weak."

My thoughts: Pathetic.

Now, if you ask me I'd much rather go everywhere alone than to be with people all the time who I really don't care for. I also sometimes  just like to be left alone.

In my own space.

In my own thoughts.

In my own element.

Because it's where my best arises!

(This could also have to do with my personality but regardless everyone needs some alone time for a reasonable amount of time. It's good for the mind, body and soul.)

Now, I'm not saying be alone all the time but I am saying be observant of those around you. I mean think about it guys, how can you ever be serious about YOU, if you are never ever solely just with you?

Answer: You cannot be!

Anyone who tells you that they are serious about themselves and capitalizing on their endeavours but is never alone is a FRAUD! I want to make that very clear, so get your mind right!

"Without great solitude, no serious work is possible".

 - Picasso

If you always need a crowd/people with you, then you're a joke and nine times out of ten you're very insecure as well.

QTNA: Why are you so resistant to be alone?

What are you hiding from?

What don't you want people to realize about you?

What don't you want to admit to yourself about yourself?

How long are you going to put up a front?

It's funny, because while thinking of what exactly to say in this post I realized that solitude has literally been my life for the past 4 years roughly, and I still haven't spoke on it, well in depth that is, until today.

However, before I go into to grave detail about my life's previous experiences let me just say this, I know that there are so many people out there my age and slightly older/younger that are confused/ stressing over someone other than themselves.

I am here to tell you: STOP WASTING YOUR PRECIOUS TIME, because you don't get it back. He/She isn't worth all.

Trust me, I would know!

If you are meant to be with a person you will be. Let it go and hope and pray they come back around, if anything that you both shared was genuine.

"Plant your garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers."

- Jorge Luis Borges

Note: #Solitudeisbliss

Live your life, travel the world, fall in and out of love about 80 times, make mistakes, but keep in mind that karma does exist so don't sweat the small stuff!

"I'm learning to appreciate loss. Anything that's meant to journey with you (technically) can't leave no matter how hard it tries. Forcing relationships equates to being STAGNANT.

Move Forward."

Okay, now the moment you've all been waiting for!!!!! I know it's about that time for me to get deep into my life story, about how solitude pertains to my life soooooooooooooooo,  GUESS WHAT!??? (keep scrolling)


So stay tuned for the rest of each posts from now and look out for what I've added to my previous ones, you won't believe it! I really have so much I need/want to share with you all! Your support is the reason I continue to do it! Make sure you spread the word, #2016 will be a marvelous and fruitful year!

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