Decisions ¿

Hellooooooooo All!

We're finally in the fall season and oh how I've missed it!

October is here and I hope you all are staying nice and cozy in your designated areas but also keeping in mind that you need to stay on your toes regarding the synchronization with yourself and your actions in these seasons of becoming wonderful!

It is very easy to let things slip and slide in between the cracks during the fall/winter seasons because it seems as though things are moving at a slower pace (which they might be), but slow progress, is still progress people. So keep on, keeping on!

Also, put a reminder on your phones that my first BOOK is in the making and it is coming together well! It will be published by next fall, so look out for that launching event and for me to reveal the name!!

Now, on to more juicy stuff for the month!

I have a lot of thoughts regarding the topic of decisions.

Making decisions is seriously the worst/best thing you can ever do, in my opinion. I wouldn't be surprised if majority of my readers disagreed with that statement because it is the unanimous belief that deciding is one of the hardest things that you can do.

However, deciding selfishly is easy (hence is why most people do it), but deciding selflessly is very, very challenging and it is a test of faith.

By nature, humans are selfish but the extent to how selfish someone can be is dependent on the other factors that influence a person's character.

For example, I am in my 20's now and most of the moves and decisions I make in life are made selfishly at this point in time. These are my years for that selfishness. It's kind of hard sometimes because it requires me to disregard some of the opinions from people who love me and have supported me since day one, but it's not always a bad thing to figure things out through your own judgement.

*mental note*

I'm constantly torn between "Treat others how you want to be treated and treat others how they treat you".

I've been screwed over numerous times, so much so, that it makes me literally numb to the actual act of deciding to only care about myself, because it's more like a given, as if it is the only option I have. But I am a firm believer that there is a time and place for everything.

I think someone can be selfish now in order to be the most selfless person later...

It's a process, trust it.

Remember: There is a time for everything in which things fall into place. You're usually never as ready as you think you are anyways (this is the hard truth that I'm struggling with currently).

Deciding isn't easy (which is probably why I gravitate towards it) but it speaks to your tolerance as a person. It isn't always black and white and it isn't always convenient but it builds on your endurance as an individual. Especially, if you are not taking the easy way around whatever the situation is at hand, it makes you stronger, appreciative, and more deserving of everything you attain.

"The bad news is,

nothing lasts forever.

the good news is,

nothing lasts forever..."


I never understood why people desire to take the easy way out. It doesn't even make sense because you are settling, which is unacceptable to me because I think everyone is capable of taking over the world, lol.

Then again, not everyone is brave in their thoughts, let alone in their actions.

"I make the mistake of assuming everyone is out here to be the best version of themselves."


I emphasize "themselves" because people want to be the best version of what already exist.

For example, I was in a meeting not too long ago and we were having a discussion about the "laws of the land" in modern society and a few of the stupid trends and ideologies that we identified as dominantly influential are as follows (please tell me if you agree/disagree):

  1. No one wants to go to school.

  2. No one wants to work for anything.

  3. Everyone wants to be lyrically and musically talented.

  4. Everyone wants to change their major.

  5. No one wants to be themselves, which is authentic and the only real thing you have at the end of the day.

All the things listed above are the definition of NOISE.

No one wants to stick anything out anymore and that's why this generation is so empty/lost/impatient/ignorant and all the above, honestly. We make it seem like it's such a lame thing to love, care, and be vulnerable with one another, when in fact that is exactly why we were all put on this earth!

Yes, believe it or not, and contrary to what you might think and witness on a daily basis, we were not put here to be hateful, heartless, careless, and envious of one another.

I mean don't you know,

 "How you get them, is how you lose them."

Note: If you get it quickly, you will lose it even quicker. Stop rushing.

I needed to tell someone that.

"There is beauty in the struggle."

- J. Cole

I don't know about any of you out there but I know for a fact that I don't want anything that comes too quickly. It's suspect to me, there is no substance, mystery or value in it because it was presented in no time.

I hate when people say: "You have it all together." or  "I'm sorry that I'm not as focused as you are." or "Not everyone can be as perfect as you..."

Like whaaaaaaaaaat are you talking about?

"To me it's not even about having it together, but rather about where your mindset is regardless of your struggle."

-Kelanji Mushala

People will only perceive your being to be "perfect" because it's what you allow them to see not necessarily because it's the actual reality of how you feel. You could actually be torn apart inside but you keep that to yourself... because truth is most people don't care.

Comparing is not the answer and I've mentioned this before, just focus on being better than you were 10 minutes ago.

"In any given moment we are given two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety."

- Abraham Maslow

Never allow anyone else to make you feel less about yourself because you've decided to stay mindful of where you're going and who you're becoming daily.

"Entrepreneurship is living a few years of your life like most people won't, so you can live the rest of your life like most people can't."


This is my decision. What's yours?

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